At this stage sleeping is the only thing I’m thinking about. We had it lucky with A1 being a great sleeper right from the start. There were some difficult times, but mostly it went very well. She had colic, but only during the day. It felt during the first few months like she would start screaming from the moment she opened her eyes in the morning, and then she would stop when she fell asleep in the evenings, but then she would sleep right until the next morning.
Then A2 was born, and in every way he is the opposite of A1. He would rarely cry during the day, and when he does it is always for a reason (tiredness, getting hurt etc). But during the night we would be lucky if we get 2 hours of continuous sleeping.
I tried the No-cry sleep solution, where you go to them immediately when they start crying (not fretting, but crying), but by that stage I was so tired that sometimes I would not wake properly when he cried, so many times I would have dreams where his crying was part of my dream, so I wasn’t always there to console him quickly. After 2 months I gave up on that.
When he turned a year I tried the sleep training, where you increase the length of time before consoling. The first night was horrible, the second night a bit better, and the third night he slept through. I was ecstatic, but that lasted for a week, then he got flu and an ear infection, and after that I think he slept through twice. He is now 17 months.
I had him at the paediatrician for a full checkup, and he also gave us a list of things to do/check. We’ve done everything but it makes no difference. I might’ve been okay if I didn’t have to get up at 5 to go to work, and only get into bed past 10. I usually only function if I’ve had 8 hours of sleep. Now in the 7 hours that I possibly can get I still get up 4 or 5 times, and if I don’t get up, but leave him to cry I lie in bed feeling terrible and hating myself. Last night I was up 5 times.